“As most of us, I was being "reactive rather than proactive"; let me explain: I am married to Vincent for 3yrs but have been together for 11. We are in an open relationship. During a work trip, after many drinks, I went back to my hotel room and had someone over. He arrived and we engaged in sex. After the fun was over, I realized I had not used a condom and started to panic. He became nervous and left. I checked the app and realized he was HIV positive. We did not discuss the subject beforehand. After a whole week of agonizing fear and a deep, painful shame I returned to NYC and told my husband. Saving you the drama, I am going to jump to my visit to my doctor, where I was received by a very caring group of people who gave me all the support and information I needed. It was there I realized how much of an ignorant I was regarding STIs, HIV and sex health. My doctor ordered the tests, treated me for STIs, and told me about PrEp. We had a long conversation but, even though he sounded optimistic, I did not seem to get rid of the guilt and shame. My doctor finally said "stop shaming yourself for being human". Then, I finally “woke up”. I went home to discuss it with my husband and immediately we started to educate ourselves on HIV, STIs and PrEp. It was no brainier; we should go on it. And we did.
Truvada has been an amazing "gateway" to information, regular blood screening and getting rid of the stigmas around sex. Not only have we become more aware of the STIs and how to treat them but also it has made us realize that we were part of the stigma. We were rejecting people based mostly on ignorance, shame and fear. Not anymore. Truvada has made us more sexually inclusive to anyone who enjoys sex and does not want to be wrapped in worry of all the "what ifs”. It has lifted a very heavy weight off my shoulders and I have gotten to meet quite a few remarkable, smart, full of color and life individuals. I have been able to "love” them a little, and to be loved back. I get the prescription via my regular doctor. I must get blood work every 3 months. My insurance pays for most and I pay the rest.”
Joshué, 40, on PrEP. Brooklyn, NY. Furniture Retail Manager